Bad kids or Bad Parenting?

We often look at children’s behaviors and say bad kids although the reality falls on the parenting style.  However parenting does not come with a one style fit all manual.  In the past (my generation) didn’t read parenting books and used the behaviors passed down through generations to parent, do what I say, and not what I do.  Currently, parent books are being utilized more.   I have observed some  80’s babies and up no longer use old school parenting styles but incorporate some of the good and leave the not so good in the past.   My hat goes off to the level of communication they use when dealing with their children, correcting behaviors without fear and allowing children to have a voice while maintaining a certain level of structure.  What we call or refer to as bad kids are most often kids seeking validation or attention from their parents or caregivers. Sometimes negative attention is better than no attention in a child’s eyes ( parents coming to school to correct the behavior is a form of attention).  When we have adult conversations in the presence of our children and fight with others ( spouse, family members, and friends) in the presence of our children this affects the childs behavior.  NO judgment  just food for thought from a 56-year-old with Adult children.  We think we are doing our best job when raising our families but the truth is no one is perfect so sharing and re-focusing can be the best thing we do for our so-called bad children.  Do you agree or disagree, what are some of your views on parenting vs a childs behavior?