We grew up thinking life should be this way or that way based on what society says and has shown us on TV and in books.    What a family looks ike, what success looks like, what makes a good parent, what a good husband / wife looks like and the list goes on.   We should start setting  realistic expectations for ourselves and not taking on the unrealistic goals society has set for us to follow.  As people of color we have to do self assessments and educate ourselves on whats best for ourselves and our families. What are some of the things you have done to educate yourself on the needs of your family?