Healing your wounds instead of spreading pain is something that we don’t think about.  When we are hurting we rarely take the time to ask if we are sharing our hurt.   Most will care and some won’t.  When bad things happen, it can take some time to get over the pain and to feel safe again.  Once you understand what happened and why its time to start healing.  In life emotional trauma can be the result of stressful events or a single stressful event that makes you feel helpless.  This feeling often leaves you numb, disconnected, and unable to trust.  Our goal should be not to repeat or spread the behavior to others.  Your behavior is an indicator of how we truly love ourselves.  Aggression, negative behaviors, gossip, and plain old nastiness toward others are indicators of spreading pain and not a indicator of healing from pain. We should all take some time to talk to the man in the mirror and assess if we like what we see and why.  Most importantly talk therapy with a therapist can be your best friend.